Yesterday's prompt asked about your hardest parenting or partner moment. It's hardly fair to plop a hard parenting moment on a 12 going on 13 week old baby, so I'll pick on his dad.
Probably the toughest thing I've had to come to terms with in marrying an introvert who's a few years older is that our friend groups won't intersect that much. My friendships are really important to me, and he completely supports that. Yesterday, for example, I had a chance to sneak out and join some friends for shopping for a couple of hours and he took the baby with no complaints, even though he had a million little things to do.
However! He is not super social himself, and bad at sharing news with even his closest friends. I see my close friends once a week. He sees his maybe twice a year. I hoped when we started dating to bring him into my circles, but although he likes and appreciates my friends, he doesn't feel the need to be as engaged as some of my friends' partners are.
This is disappointing, but it's not a dealbreaker. There are advantages - I've gone on many vacations without him since we've been married, and he doesn't mind a bit. He's not even an ounce possessive or jealous. I would far rather him be like this than the other extreme, even though I often have to twist his arm or go without him to social events.
Besides, someone has to stay home with the booberry.
Probably the toughest thing I've had to come to terms with in marrying an introvert who's a few years older is that our friend groups won't intersect that much. My friendships are really important to me, and he completely supports that. Yesterday, for example, I had a chance to sneak out and join some friends for shopping for a couple of hours and he took the baby with no complaints, even though he had a million little things to do.
However! He is not super social himself, and bad at sharing news with even his closest friends. I see my close friends once a week. He sees his maybe twice a year. I hoped when we started dating to bring him into my circles, but although he likes and appreciates my friends, he doesn't feel the need to be as engaged as some of my friends' partners are.
This is disappointing, but it's not a dealbreaker. There are advantages - I've gone on many vacations without him since we've been married, and he doesn't mind a bit. He's not even an ounce possessive or jealous. I would far rather him be like this than the other extreme, even though I often have to twist his arm or go without him to social events.
Besides, someone has to stay home with the booberry.
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